I'm afraid that level of customization isn't something I'm going to be able to tackle at this time. New software comes with a learning curve, for me as well. I know it's frustrating but I think after a while you'll figure out the best way to use the software, and as time goes on I'll be better at figuring out what we can change.
Meanwhile, be reassured you're not the only one going through these growing pains!
I love you regardless. And love the Missus too for letting you take on this enormous project!
Sometimes you just have to do what feels right with your money instead of what is "optimal". Too many focus on optimal outcomes, when good enough is good enough. (Thanks to Retired @ 50)